Arguments are fueled by reactivity and the need to be right. So what simple step can be done to bring it down a notch, so both parties can think a bit more clearly? Get ready…it’s a simple one:
Oh but you knew that, didn’t you? When was the last time, in the midst of an escalating argument, did you simply request some time? Most likely, your foe will honor this request (because its not a slight on them, is it?). You may be brewing for a while, conjuring up the most pointed comebacks known to humankind.
But after a few hours your mind goes elsewhere. Maybe you engage in some work or get some fresh air. Or you talk with a friend. Or laugh a little. When you return to that heated argument that meant so much to you before, you realize it just doesn’t have the same hold over you.
So ask for it, the next time you feel an interaction spiraling downward. Or simply take it.
Take some time. Let the anger turn into energy. Direct it toward other aspects of your life.
One could venture to say that every day, we argue. With ourselves, with others…heck, even with inanimate objects (“Damn chair! What the hell are you doing there?”)
Can anything be gained from an argument? Let’s see what the experts say:
“It was nice to give something to an individual who gives a lot to his country and his community,” said American Airlines Lead Mechanic Keith Duffner.
Helping a vet in need is a special feeling–a chance to give back. It’s heart-warming to know this story has gotten so much attention. It shows how much the public values our service people and the many ways we can help.
LAS VEGAS. A McCarran International Airport mechanic took time away from working on planes and lent a helping hand to a wounded warrior. The picture that captured it all has now gone viral and is stealing the hearts of many. “It was nice to give something to an individual who gives a lot to his country and his community,” said American Airlines Lead Mechanic Keith Duffner. In the photo that’s gone viral, you can see Duffner working hard to fix the prosthetic leg of Afghan war veteran Taylor Morris. “Made his trip a little easier, that was a nice thing to do,” said Duffner.
Can you imagine never meeting a blood relative? Perhaps many can. It must always feel like a missing piece in a personal puzzle. This brother and sister managed to find themselves after decades…but the love felt as fresh as today.
SAN DIEGO – After decades of wondering, local Navy nurse and the brother she was separated from for decades were reunited.
With a quick salute and a long hug, Cmdr. Cindy Murray and Chief Aviation Ordnanceman Robert Williamson closed the gap on more than 30 years.
“It’s the greatest thing. I looked for him for the longest time and now here he is and it’s just great,” said Murray, a senior nursing officer at Naval Medical Center San Diego.
“Never in a million years did I think I would be standing here in this situation,” added Williamson, who is stationed at Naval Air Station Lemoore, Calif.
Murray and Williamson are from Denver, and the last time they saw each other was in the late 1970s when Williamson was only six years old.
“We share different mothers. My dad went a different way from my mother and we just lost touch,” said Murray.
As adults, the two never stopped looking for each other.
Read more about this amazing rediscovery story.
If you haven’t heard of her, you should.
Thirteen-year-old sensation Mo’ne Davis, star player of Philadelphia’s Taney Dragons, has become the first Little Leaguer to grace the national cover of Sports Illustrated.
“This 5’4, 111-pound eighth grader is not only taking the Little League World Series by storm, but also she has captured the nation’s attention.”
“Mo’ne Davis’ even has as fastball that clocks in at about 70mph.”
A hearty “you go girl” is called for.
Congenital adrenal hyperplasia is a disorder of the adrenal gland that affects one in 10,000 to 18,000 children, according to the National Library of Medicine. Though Quincy suffers from this disorder, she is also considered by some the best 6 year-old surfer in the world.
Quincy Symonds only began surfing a year and a half ago, but the pint-sized Australian daredevil has already started getting sponsors and making a name for herself in the surfing community, according to ABC Open. Achievements that are not only impressive given her age, but also considering Quincy’s battle with a serious condition called congenital adrenal hyperplasia.
In the video above, the surfing prodigy’s parents explain that after suffering adrenal crisis as an infant, Quincy was diagnosed with the disorder, leaving her steroid-dependent and requiring medication three times a day. But the spunky child isn’t letting it hold her back.
“Quincy is an amazing human,” her surf coach, Tony, says. “She’s like no other human I’ve met before. She has no fear.”
Source: Huffington Post
Money isn’t the only way people can donate to charity. In this case, actress Sarah Jessica Parker and designer Cindy Chao teamed up together to create a “Ballerina Butterfly” brooch whose proceeds will go to the the New York City Ballet, an organization that Parker said is close to her heart.
According to the International Diamond Exchange, the brooch took two years to make. Rapaport reported that presale estimates indicate the brooch will sell between $750,000 and $950,000. Fittingly, all proceeds from the sale of the “Ballerina Butterfly” will benefit the New York City Ballet, an organization that Parker said is close to her heart.
The acting world just lost another icon, as we say goodbye to the amazing Lauren Bacall. In her early years, she was an onscreen siren. As she got older, she became a noted author and popular Broadway actress. Let’s take her words of wisdom with us:
- Stardom isn’t a profession, it’s an accident.
- If there was one thing I had never been, it was mysterious, and if there was one thing I had never done, it was not talk.
- Looking at yourself in a mirror isn’t exactly a study of life.
- I used to tremble from nerves so badly that the only way I could hold my head steady was to lower my chin practically to my chest and look up at Bogie. That was the beginning of The Look.
- I am not a has-been. I am a will be.
- [Katharine Hepburn] was much stronger, much more opinionated than I am or ever was, and it was considered attractive on her. But not on me. I don’t know. Maybe her Bryn Mawr accent was more appealing than mine.
- In Hollywood, an equitable divorce settlement means each party getting 50% of publicity.
- I think your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that.
- You can’t always be a leading lady.
- I fought for that part [in Designing Woman]; I wanted it badly. I took a lower salary, I did everything. Grace Kelly said, ‘I’ll never forgive you for playing that part. It was written for me.’ She got the prince, I got the part.
- What is the point of working all your life and then stopping?
- I don’t live in the past, although your past is so much a part of what you are that you can’t ignore it. But I don’t look at scrapbooks. I could show you some, but I’d have to climb ladders, and I can’t climb.
- Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you’re alive, it isn’t.
- I wish Frank Sinatra would just shut up and sing.
While it’s far from positive news that Robin Williams died yesterday, let’s also give a moment to recognize the many ways in which Robin Williams has brought laughter and joy into our lives.
“You’re only given one little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.”
I’ll confess something to you: I felt pretty badly about myself this last week. My temperament…not so great. Freaking out about little stuff, directing it at others needlessly, being on edge, apologizing excessively. Fearful I was pushing people in my life, I needed an answer.
Self-punishment was my first solution (and you can only guess how that went). While I needed to check my behavior, I also wasn’t the world’s most evil person and didn’t deserve that kind of self-recrimination.
So what did I do?
I pretended like I was a Queen.
No, I didn’t think I was better than anyone or felt the need to rule the world. I just allowed myself to be “as is” because, as royalty, I’m special no matter what I do or so. It’s a privilege to be around me. I am benevolent and offer energies and magics that I’m not even aware of. I radiate a high power that exceeds a small outburst or misplaced word.
I am my own Queen. I’m my own brand of royalty and it’s a privilege and a pleasure to be around me.
Let’s not forget (especially as women) the positive and magical ways in which we influence other. Let’s make executive decisions to “let things go” when we “mess up.” Let’s be regal and allow ourselves to be beloved.
Hail to the Queen.
Hail to the Queen.